September 9, 2007

Vaginismus Symptoms


Vaginismus Symptoms
Depending on the intensity, vaginismus symptoms range from minor burning sensations with tightness to total closure of the vaginal opening with impossible penetration.
Common symptoms of vaginismus
Burning or stinging with tightness during sex
Difficult or impossible penetration, entry pain, uncomfortable insertion of penis
Unconsummated marriage
Ongoing sexual discomfort or pain following childbirth, yeast/urinary infections, STDs, IC, hysterectomy, cancer and surgeries, rape, menopause, or other issues
Ongoing sexual pain of unknown origin, with no apparent cause
Difficulty inserting tampons or undergoing a pelvic/gynecological exam
Spasms in other body muscle groups (legs, lower back, etc.) and/or halted breathing during attempts at intercourse
Avoidance of sex due to pain and/or failure
Vaginismus is vaginal tightness causing discomfort, burning, pain, penetration problems, or complete inability to have intercourse. The vaginal tightness results from the involuntary tightening of the pelvic floor (especially the pubococcygeus (PC) muscle group), although the woman may not be aware that this is the cause of her penetration or pain difficulties.
Did You Know?
Vaginismus is a common cause of ongoing sexual pain and is also the primary female cause of sexless (unconsummated) marriages. Sexual pain can affect women in all stages of life; even women who have had years of comfortable sex. While temporarily experiencing discomfort during sexual intercourse is not unusual, ongoing problems should be diagnosed and treated.

Examples of the effects of vaginismusLeft diagram - As the man approaches the woman to attempt intercourse, her PC muscle group (darkly shaded) involuntarily tightens the vaginal entrance making intercourse painfully impossible ‘like bumping into a wall’. This type of vaginismus makes penetration impossible. Right diagram - In other cases of vaginismus, penetration may be possible, but the woman experiences periods of involuntary tightness causing burning, discomfort, or pain.
Variations in the experience of vaginismus
Vaginismus can be triggered in both younger and older women, in those with no sexual experience and those with years of experience. Not all women experience vaginismus the same way, and the extensiveness of vaginismus varies:
Some women are unable to insert anything at all.
Some women are able to insert a tampon and complete a gynecological exam, yet are unable to insert a penis.
Others are able to partially insert a penis, although the process is very painful.
Some are able to fully insert a penis, but tightness and discomfort interrupt the normal progression from arousal through to orgasm and bring pain instead.
Some women are able to tolerate years of uncomfortable intercourse with gradually increasing pain and discomfort that eventually interrupts the sexual experience.
Women may also experience years of intermittent difficulty with entry or movement and have to constantly be on their guard to control and relax their pelvic area when it suddenly ‘acts up’.
Vaginismus Symptom Severity Range

1. Minor discomfort or burning with tightness is experienced with vaginal entry or thrusting but may diminish.
2. More significant burning and tightness is experienced with vaginal entry or thrusting and tends to persist.
3. Involuntary tightness of the vaginal muscles makes entry and movement difficult and painful.
4. Partner is unable to penetrate due to tightly closed vaginal opening. If entry is forced significant pain results.

How does vaginismus cause problems?
With vaginismus, the mind and body have developed a conditioned response against penetration. The body has learned to expect or anticipate pain upon penetration, so that the powerful PC muscle ‘flinches’ or contracts to protect against the potential of intercourse pain. This can be equated to automatically blinking one’s eyes and wincing when an object is hurled toward us. It is not something a woman thinks about doing - it just happens (see Causes).
The tightened PC muscles may cause burning or pain with sex or may completely block entry. Instead of preventing pain, the tightening of the PC muscle group ultimately causes pain; although acting as a defense mechanism against pain, the opposite effect results.

Vaginismus has a wide range of manifestations, from impossible penetration, to intercourse with discomfort, pain or burning, all resulting from involuntary pelvic tightness. When a woman has never been able to have pain-free sexual intercourse due to penetration difficulties, it is generally classified as primary vaginismus. When a woman develops the vaginismus condition after having previously enjoyed problem-free sex, it is generally classified as secondary vaginismus. Depending upon the classification, there may be some minor differences in the way in which vaginismus is treated.
Primary Vaginismus
When a woman has never at any time been able to have pain-free intercourse due to vaginismus tightness, her condition is known as primary vaginismus.
Primary vaginismus refers to the experience of vaginismus with ‘first-time’ intercourse attempts. Typically, primary vaginismus will be discovered when a woman attempts to have sex for the very first time. The spouse/partner is unable to achieve penetration and it is like he just bumps into a ‘wall’ where there should be the opening to the vagina. Entry is impossible or extremely difficult. Primary vaginismus is the common cause of sexless, unconsummated marriages. Some women with primary vaginismus will also experience problems with tampon insertion or gynecological exams. The PC muscles constrict and tighten the vaginal opening making it uncomfortable or in many cases virtually impossible to have entry. When tightened, attempts to insert anything into the vagina produce pain or discomfort.
Some women also experience related spasms in other body muscle groups or even halted breathing. Generally, when the attempt to put something in the vagina has ended, the muscles relax and return to normal. For this reason, medical examinations often fail to reveal any apparent problems unless the tightness occurs and is noted during the pelvic exam.
Secondary Vaginismus

Vaginismus Risk Factors
Vaginismus can strike any woman at any time at any age. Contributing factors could include:
Pelvic pain due to a medical condition, infection, physical trauma or assault, age-related changes, or painful physical events such as childbirth.
Emotional distress, anxiety, fear, relational difficulties, or other similar emotions that relate to sex, intimacy, past trauma, or relationships.
The anticipation pelvic pain due to some past or present condition or situation.
Other causes.

Secondary vaginismus sexual pain can affect women in all stages of life – even women who have had many years of pain-free intercourse.
Secondary vaginismus refers to the experience of tightness pain or penetration difficulties later in life, after previously being able to have normal, pain-free intercourse. It typically follows or is triggered by temporary pelvic pain or other related problems. It can be triggered by medical conditions, traumatic events, relationship issues, surgery, life-changes (e.g. menopause), or for no apparent reason (see Causes for more examples). Secondary vaginismus is the common culprit where there is continued, ongoing sexual pain or penetration tightness where there had been no problem before.
Most commonly, secondary vaginismus strikes women experiencing temporary pelvic pain problems such as urinary or yeast infections, pain from delivering babies, menopause, or surgery. The initial pain problems are addressed medically, healed, and/or managed, yet women continue to experience ongoing sexual pain or penetration difficulties due to vaginismus. While the initial temporary pain was experienced, their bodies developed a conditioned response resulting in ongoing, involuntary vaginal tightness with attempts at intercourse.
Left untreated, vaginismus often worsens, because the experience of ongoing sexual pain further increases the duration and intensity of the involuntary PC muscle contraction. The severity of secondary vaginismus may escalate so that sex or even penetration is no longer possible without great difficulty. Some women will also experience difficulty with gynecological exams or tampon insertion. Vaginismus can also impede a woman’s ability to experience orgasm during intercourse, as any sudden pangs of pain will abruptly terminate the arousal buildup toward orgasm.
Vaginismus is involuntary - not intentional
It is important to note that vaginismus is not triggered deliberately or intentionally by women. It happens involuntarily without their intentional control and often without any awareness on their part. Vaginismus has a variety of causes, often in response to a combination of physical or emotional factors. The mystery of the problem can be very frustrating and distressing for both women and their partners. Despite the fact that vaginismus is involuntary and can strike any woman, many women feel intense shame from being unable to have intercourse and keep their pain private, feeling uncomfortable sharing their secret with anyone.

“It always felt tight and uncomfortable. I never realized it was vaginismus.”
“I experience burning pain upon penetration attempts.”
“I’m still a virgin even though we’ve tried many times - it’s like he hits a wall.”
“Sex used to be great, but now I close up - it burns and stings.”
“Sex was fine until after thebaby - now it always hurts.”
“We can’t consummate our marriage - it’s impossible.”
“The doctor says there’s nothing wrong with me. So why does it still hurt?”
“When he starts to move, it feels uncomfortable and we have to stop.”
“Ever since the operation I feel burning pain when I try to get him in.”
“After menopause I began to feel soreness and now I tighten up.”
“I don’t wear tampons because itis too hard to get them in.”
“I seem to ‘tighten’ up down there even when I really want to have sex.”
“There’s no way I’m doing a pelvicexam again - it’s unbearable.”
“Sex has never been comfortable for me.”

Unconsummated Marriages & Impossible Penetration
With severe cases of vaginismus where there has never been penetration, is it really possible to overcome? Is there hope for unconsummated couples?
Yes. Fortunately vaginismus is highly treatable with full restoration of sexual intercourse. Couples completing treatment fully consummate and enjoy normal penetrative sex. See Feedback for many user contributed stories of overcoming penetration difficulties.Unconsummated Couple“My husband and I waited for each other for marriage, and ended up waiting a lot longer than we ever dreamed! Two years of marriage later, we still had been unable to consummate our marriage and enjoy that wedding night we’d looked forward to…” More »
Vaginismus is by far the most common cause of unconsummated marriages (where the problem is due to female issues). Couples often describe their attempts at intercourse as there being a “wall” where the vaginal opening should be. It is baffling to some women as to how this condition originated in them if they had no prior sexual contact or pelvic problems. Intercourse is impossible and painful insertion attempts reinforce the vaginismus response. The conditioned reflex continues to happen every time there is potential for vaginal penetration. The muscles act rebelliously, refusing to allow entry even though the woman may truly want to consummate and receive her spouse vaginally. This is extremely frustrating. For the aroused man, it is like running into a brick wall. For the woman, it is like her body is no longer under her control.
Sex is an activity involving many complex conditioned responses. Bodies do not start out as skilled reactors to sexual stimulus. Successful intercourse is learned through experience and interaction. The nervous system and musculature discover and remember what feels good, works, and what isn’t comfortable. Normally, the transition to intercourse becomes more pleasurable after the first few experiences. The mind and body allow entry and learn to anticipate intercourse positively. Healthy messages result and they generate arousal in anticipation of intercourse. In a woman with primary vaginismus, the mind and body never get the chance to be trained through positive intercourse experiences. The process of learning how to have successful intercourse is cut short when the vaginal muscles spasm as a protective device against pain. With the absence of any direct conscious control on the woman’s part, nerves controlling the vaginal muscles react to the anticipation of intercourse as a call to tightly constrict, brace, protect, and guard against the onset of potential penetration pain.




Will vaginismus go away on its own?
Vaginismus is a self-perpetuating condition that requires treatment to break the 'cycle of pain' and fully resolve.
Since vaginismus is an involuntary, self-perpetuating condition, it will not normally 'go away' unless properly addressed. The 'cycle of pain' that is triggered with vaginismus usually continues indefinitely (and typically worsens) until the woman learns how to control and override the pelvic floor muscle triggers that tighten the vaginal opening. As much as she may like to do so, a woman cannot simply 'will' vaginismus away, and it will not go away on its own.
Fortunately, vaginismus treatment has high success rates. A full recovery from vaginismus is the normal outcome of treatment, with pain-free intercourse restored.
Vaginismus Treatment
Vaginismus is considered one of the most successfully treatable female sexual disorder. Many studies have shown treatment success rates approaching nearly 100%. Treatment resolution follows a manageable, step-by-step process.
Overview
Vaginismus is highly treatable. Successful vaginismus treatment does not require drugs, surgery, hypnosis, nor any other complex invasive technique. Effective treatment approaches combine pelvic floor control exercises, insertion or dilation training, pain elimination techniques, transition steps, and exercises designed to help women identify, express and resolve any contributing emotional components. Treatment steps can often be completed at home, allowing a woman to work at her own pace in privacy, or in cooperation with her health care provider.
The sexual pain, tightness and penetration difficulties from vaginismus are fully treatable and can be completely overcome with no remaining pain or discomfort.
Women experiencing sexual tightness/pain, penetration problems, or unconsummated relationships can expect remarkable resolution of their vaginismus, allowing full, pain-free intercourse.
Treatment steps can usually be completed at home using a self-help approach, allowing a woman to work at her own pace in privacy, or in cooperation with her health care provider or specialist.
Vaginismus treatment exercises follow a manageable, step-by-step process (see Steps below).
Vaginismus is Highly Treatable
The sexual pain, tightness, burning or penetration difficulties caused by vaginismus are completely treatable, with high success rates for treatment. Couples are often amazed by the sudden life-changing effects of treatment. Those with penetration difficulties, or pain during intercourse, normally transition to pain-free and pleasurable intercourse following a step-by-step approach.
Is vaginismus really treatable; and if so, how long does it take to resolve?
Vaginismus is considered one of the most successfully resolved female sexual disorders. High treatment success rates are typical within reasonable time frames.
A Treatment Program is Important
Many of the steps to treat vaginismus are counter-intuitive and not immediately obvious. As failure at any point inhibits recovery (experiencing discomfort tends to intensify vaginismus - see ‘cycle of pain‘) and can cause avoidance or abandonment of progress, it is best to approach vaginismus with an educated understanding to ensure success in dealing with it.
What is involved in the successful treatment of vaginismus?
Outline of 10 step vaginismus resolution process
To aid women in getting proper treatment direction, we have assembled a comprehensive program in book/kit form as outlined below. The self-help program is a straight-forward, step-by-step approach used by many treatment professionals to successfully guide women through the complete process of overcoming vaginismus.

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Treatment steps can usually be completed at home using a self-help approach, allowing a woman to work at her own pace in privacy, or in cooperation with her health care provider or specialist. Easy-to-follow instructions, supplemented with descriptive illustrations and helpful strategies, make the process a positive, successful experience. At the completion of the steps, pain and penetration problems due to vaginismus are typically fully resolved.
Step 1 - Understanding vaginismus
Step 1 provides an overview of vaginismus and how sexual pain, tightness, burning sensations or penetration difficulties may result from it. This approach helps women to get started by being proactive about their sexual health as understanding vaginismus is fundamental to the process of overcoming it. Topics also include how to obtain a solid diagnosis, treatment methods, relationship issues, pelvic/relaxation techniques, conditioned responses and muscle memories.
Step 2 - Sexual history review & treatment strategies
A balanced approach is taken to help women review and analyze their history. Exercises help identify and evaluate any events, emotions, or triggers contributing to vaginismus sexual pain or penetration problems. Checklists and detailed exercises map out a woman’s sexual history and pelvic pain events, working toward appropriate treatment strategies. Emotional reviews help detail any negative events, feelings, or memories that may collectively contribute to involuntary pelvic responses. Topics also include blocked or hidden memories and how to move forward when there have been traumatic events in a woman’s past.
Did You Know?
Vaginismus can be overcome without drugs, surgery, self-hypnosis, nor any other complex invasive technique.

Step 3 - Sexual pain anatomy
Women often lack complete information about their body’s sexual anatomy, function, and the causes of pelvic pain and penetration problems. Confusion regarding problems with inner vaginal areas and vaginal muscles frequently lead to misdiagnosis and frustration. Step 3 educates about these sexual body parts with emphasis on their role in sexual pain and penetration issues. Topics include how to distinguish what kind of pain or discomfort is normal with first-time or ongoing sex and what physical changes take place during arousal to orgasm cycles in the context of sexual pain or penetration problems. Anatomy areas such as the hymen and inner vulva are explained and demystified (for example there are six diagrams of hymen varieties to help distinguish hymen problems).

Differences in treatment
Note that treatment for those who have never been able to have pain-free intercourse (primary vaginismus) usually requires all ten steps, while those with secondary vaginismus may be able to shorten or bypass some steps (see also Is there a difference between the treatment for primary and secondary vaginismus?).

Step 4 - Vaginal tightness & the role of pelvic floor muscles
Female sexual pain and penetration difficulties typically involve some degree of involuntary tightening of the pelvic floor. This step focuses on the role of pelvic floor muscles, especially the pubococcygeus (PC) muscle group, explaining in great detail how once they are triggered they continue to cause involuntary tightness with attempts at intercourse. Effective vaginismus treatment focuses on retraining the pelvic floor to eliminate involuntary muscle reactions that produce tightness or pain. Learning how to identify, selectively control, exercise and retrain the pelvic muscles to reduce pain and alleviate penetration tightness and difficulties is an important step in vaginismus treatment.
Step 5 - Insertion techniques
For women with penetration difficulties or pain, techniques must be learned to allow initial entry without pain. In this step, women practice pubococcygeus (PC) muscle control techniques as they allow the entry of a small object (cotton swab, tampon, or finger) into their vagina, working completely under their control and pace. Any involuntary muscle contractions that had previously closed the entrance to the vagina and prevented penetration are overridden. Women begin to take full control over their pelvic floor and learn how to flex and relax the pelvic floor at will, eliminating unwanted tightness and allowing entry.

Using dilators without a program?
Note that vaginal dilators are typically not effective when used without guidance. They should not be used without proper physical instruction, exercises, transitional steps, etc. Dilators are simply one aspect of the vaginismus treatment process, and if used without pelvic control techniques they will likely be very ineffective. Involuntary muscle reactions are what produces the tightness and pain of vaginismus. The main focus of proper dilator use is in retraining the pelvic floor, not on stretching the vaginal opening.
See the FAQ - Using dilators without a program? for more information.

Step 6 - Graduated vaginal insertions
When used properly, vaginal dilators are effective tools to further help eliminate pelvic tightness due to vaginismus. Dilators provide a substitute means to trigger pelvic muscle reactions. The effective dilator exercises in Step 6 teach women how to override involuntary contractions, relaxing the pelvic floor so it responds correctly to sexual penetration. Graduated vaginal insertion exercises allow women to comfortably transition to the stage where they are ready for intercourse without pain or discomfort.
Step 7 - Sensate focus & techniques for couples to reduce pelvic floor tension
Helping with the transition to pain-free intercourse, this step explains sensate focus techniques for couples to use to reduce pelvic floor tension and increase intimacy. Couples begin to work together during this step as exercises teach how to successfully practice sensate focus (controlled sensual touch) and prepare for pain-free intercourse using techniques from earlier steps. The exercises are designed to build trust and understanding and assist in the process to adjust to controlled intercourse without pain.
Step 8 - Pre-intercourse readiness exercises
Finalizing preparations for couples to transition to fully pain-free intercourse, this step completes pre-intercourse readiness. Couples review and practice techniques that eliminate pelvic floor tension and prepare to transition to full intercourse. Preparing ahead of time to be able to manage, control and eliminate pain or penetration difficulties, the exercises assist with the final transition to pain-free intercourse.
Step 9 - Making the transition to intercourse
Step 9 explains the techniques used to eliminate pain and penetration difficulties while transitioning to normal intercourse. Many troubleshooting topics are covered (with supporting diagrams) such as positions to use to maximize control and minimize pain, tips to ensure more comfortable intercourse, etc.
Step 10 - Full pain-free intercourse & pleasure restoration
The final step toward overcoming vaginismus includes penis entry with movement and freedom from any pain or tightness. Step 10 exercises are designed to educate, build sexual trust and intimacy, and complete the transition to full sexual intercourse free of pain. Couples can begin to enjoy pleasure with intercourse, initiate family planning, and move forward to live life free from vaginismus.

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Topical Lignocaine for Vaginismus: A Case Report

Vaginismus is a sexual dysfunction in which spasm of vaginal musculature precludes penetrative intercourse. In many cases associated pain or fear of pain may contribute to the maintenance of vaginismus. We report a case of primary vaginismus with associated pain that benefited from topical application of lignocaine gel along with systematic desensitization resulting in successful consummation, and suggest that it may be a useful adjunct during finger dilatation in the treatment of vaginismus, specifically in patients who have associated pain or areas of hyperesthesia in the introitus.
Introduction
In DSM-IV-TR,[1] vaginismus is classified as a sexual dysfunction and is included in the subcategory of sexual pain disorders. The main diagnostic criterion is the presence of a 'recurrent or persistent involuntary spasm of the musculature of the outer third of the vagina that interferes with intercourse'; the muscle spasm is described as readily observable and in some cases, as 'so severe or prolonged as to cause pain'. In contrast, gynecological examinations have found vaginal or pelvic spasm in only a third of vaginismic patients.[2] Although pain is not a primary feature of DSM-IV-TR criteria of vaginismus, in practice it is an integral part of the experience.[2,3] Vaginismus can be classified as either primary or secondary. Primary vaginismus occurs when the woman has never been able to have penetrative intercourse because of the involuntary contraction of her vaginal muscles, which is sometimes referred to as 'unconsummated marriage'; secondary vaginismus occurs when a woman has previously been able to have intercourse but is no longer able to be penetrated because of the involuntary muscle spasm. We report a case of primary vaginismus with associated pain that benefited from finger dilatation along with topical application of lignocaine gel resulting in successful consummation.
Case Report
A married couple presented in the psychosexual clinic with history of non-consummation of marriage for 1 ½ years because of erectile dysfunction in the husband. On detailed history, it became apparent that the problem was vaginismus leading to pain during intercourse, and consequential refraining from penetrative intercourse owing to anticipation of coital pain in the wife (aged 21 years) and the husband (aged 24 years) had erectile failure secondary to lack of cooperation from the wife. To avoid this, the couple barely attempted intercourse more than once a fortnight. Previous gynecological consultations did not reveal any anatomical abnormality or local pathology. On per vaginal examination, the attempt to insert the examining finger elicited reflex spasm of the outer third of the vagina as well as report of pain by the patient, which confirmed our diagnosis of vaginismus.
The couple was educated regarding sexual anatomy, physiology and proper coital techniques. They were encouraged to engage in sexual activity and spend more time during foreplay before attempting coition to enhance sensual pleasure and allay anxiety. Systematic desensitization in the form of gradual dilatation of vagina using lubricated fingers was started but the frequency of sexual activity did not change because of fear of pain. In a subsequent follow-up, 5% lignocaine gel was applied locally in the outer third of vagina and finger dilatation was carried out after 2 min. With reassurance, it was possible to admit two fingers without any wince or complaint of pain from the patient, which allowed us to gain her confidence. In the same setting, we demonstrated to the couple that three fingers could be inserted gradually without any pain or spasm and advised the patient to use lignocaine gel before attempting intercourse. In the follow-up after 2 weeks, the couple reported success in coition with complete penetration, at times without using lignocaine gel and the frequency of intercourse increased to almost daily.
Discussion
Although vaginismus is considered a sexual pain disorder, the experience of pain is not necessary for the diagnosis, and the nature, severity or causal mechanism of 'vaginismic pain' is still debated. Pain or fear of pain is suggested as a symptom rather than a cause of vaginismus;[4] however, some authors have stressed its possible causal and maintaining role in the disorder.[5,6] It has been suggested that patients diagnosed as having vaginismus can be conceptualized as having either 'vaginal penetration aversion/phobia' or 'genital pain disorder', or both, implying different approach in the management.[2,7]
Vaginismus may be of such severity that a marriage cannot be consummated,[8] as exemplified in our case. If severe vaginismus existed before attempted consummation of a marriage, primary or secondary impotence can result from repetitive failures at intromission.[8] In our case, the male partner came up with erectile dysfunction and the diagnosis of vaginismus was revealed during detailed evaluation.
Masters and Johnson[8] had remarked regarding an unusual physical response pattern of women afflicted with vaginismus, 'the patient usually attempts to escape the examiner's approach by withdrawing toward the head of the table, even raising her legs from the stirrup, and/or constricting her thighs in the midline to avoid the implied threat of the impending vaginal examination'; this pattern may be more common in patients having associated pain symptoms. Although some authors have suggested that conducting an early gynecological examination is potentially damaging for the progress of therapy because of unnecessary pain or discomfort,[9,10] if a non-traumatic pelvic exploration is conducted and a markedly apprehensive woman somewhat reassured in the process, it is a first step in the therapeutic reversal of the involuntary spasm of the vaginal outlet, and the diagnosis of vaginismus can easily be established by a one-finger pelvic examination.[8]
A lack of sex education has been noted in vaginismic women,[11,12] especially among the less educated. Therefore, normal sexual anatomy and physiology should be discussed with the couple to dispel the misconceptions. Treatment of vaginismus includes progressive vaginal dilatation and vaginal muscle exercises intended to desensitize the woman to vaginal penetration and to develop voluntary control of the vaginal muscles, thus preventing spasm, and other psychotherapeutic interventions targeting phobia, negative conditioning, feeling of guilt or pain.[7,13] Systematic desensitization, in vivo or imaginal, using graded dilators along with relaxation, results in reduction of anxiety through gradual approach of feared stimulus.[14] Other less frequently reported approaches include hypnotherapy[15] and biofeedback.[16] Hassel[17] had reported a patient with vaginismus in which a hyperesthetic area could be identified, and on application of 5% lignocaine gel topically the spasm decreased allowing insertion of three fingers. Similarly, in our case, the spasm of pelvic muscles with secondary pain was relieved by topical 5% lignocaine gel thus allowing consummation of marriage. Therefore, it may be a useful adjunct during finger dilatation or other behavioral approaches in the treatment of vaginismus which can be used at home before intercourse, specifically in patients who have associated pain or areas of hyperesthesia in the introitus, although further studies are needed.

Frequently Asked Questions


What is vaginismus?
Vaginismus is a spasm in the musculature of the outer third of the vagina which makes insertion difficult or impossible. For some women, this muscle spasm is painful; for others, it is not. Most women experience pain if they try to insert something in spite of this spasm.

Is vaginismus always caused by abuse?
No. Some research suggests a correlation between vaginismus and abuse, and other studies show no relationship. Many women with vaginismus have been abused, and many have not. Just because you've never been abused doesn't mean you can't have vaginismus, any more than being abused would guarantee vaginismus.

What causes vaginismus?
It is widely believed that in most cases of vaginismus, the spasm is triggered either by pain or the anticipation of pain (emotional or physical pain). Much like the way an eyelid closes when something comes to close to the eye or a muscle flinches in response to an imminent punch, vaginismus is like a vaginal flinch.It is in some sense protecting the area, even though the woman doesn't want it to. Some women have fears or guilt regarding intercourse, others have physical pain problems, and still others have no obvious cause for their condition. One perplexing aspect of vaginismus is that often the spasm remains long after the woman has dealt with any anxieties or physical problems. So learning to control and eliminate this spasm is how one cures vaginismus.

If I have pain with intercourse, then do I necessarily have vaginismus?
Not necessarily. Painful intercourse can be caused by any number of factors, and vaginismus isn't even the most common. Often, painful sex due to other conditions may lead to vaginismus, so even if you do have vaginismus, you may have another underlying primary cause of pain.
The most common cause of chronic painful sex (or painful attempts at sex, depending on the severity) is vulvar vestibulitis syndrome (VVS), which is one of a number of vulvar pain disorder. VVS can occur at any age, and often with no obvious cause and usually no visible symptoms. It is simply an enhanced sensitivity in, on, or near the vaginal opening.
It should not hurt to touch any part of your vulva. If it does, you should look into the possibility that you may have a vulvar pain condition. They are extremely common, and only seldom diagnosed. Most women suffer in silence. Most doctors do not routinely test for VVS, but the test simply involves poking certain areas (corresponding to your vestibular glands) with a Q-tip and seeing if you have pain. There are other problems which can cause painful intercourse as well, including lichen sclerosis (a skin condition), interstitial cystitis (involves the bladder), essential vulvodynia (which causes nearly constant pain), and others.
These conditions are not widely understood or even recognized by many doctors, so most women with these disorders (especially young women) are likely to be misdiagnosed initially with vaginismus. If you suspect you have one of these disorders, treatment by a specialist is recommended.
How can I cure this?
Many women, though not all, find it necessary to treat the underlying causes of their vaginismus. For some this will involve therapy if emotional issues are involved, and for others they will have to treat vulvar pain conditions, while still others may not need to focus on what initially caused their problem (some may not even know their cause), and just focus on controlling the muscle.
Learning to control the muscle can be done in many different ways. The most common way is to gently insert progressively larger objects (called "dilators") into the vagina so that the muscle spasm is unlearned. Two excellent sources on the web for instructions on how to use dilators are http://www.med.umich.edu/obgyn/vulva/sandp.html(you have to scroll down a bit to find the right section), and www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5049a_qa.html (scroll here too).
Other techniques our members have found helpful include relaxation exercises, stretches, biofeedback-assisted muscle rehabilitation, and focused exercises such as in Pilates.

What are dilators and where can I get them?
"Dilators," in this context, don't actually dilate, so it's kind of unfortunate terminology. The word refers to any objects inserted vaginally to slowly condition the vaginal muscles to not tense up during penetration attempts. These can be candles, fingers, tampons, vegetables, dildoes, vibrators, or so-called "medical dilators." The medical ones aren't significantly different from dildoes, except that often a prescription is required, they are not available in festive colors, and in some cases, your insurance may cover them.
All of the different options listed here have been tried with some success. Depending on your financial situation, whether you are being treated by a doctor or self-treating, and your personal preference, any of these may help you. Some women prefer vibrators because they find the vibration tends to relax the muscles, while others prefer non-vibrating dilators.
Medical dilators are typically provided by physicians or therapists, and dildoes and vibrators may be purchased at sex shops. Two shops that have online ordering and discreet delivery are A Woman's Touch and Good Vibrations, but nearly every sex shop will carry products of this sort.
Should I use lubricant? If so, what kind?
Yes. Especially if you are just practicing with dilators, you may not be aroused enough to provide adequate lubricant. Many drugstores carry personal lubricants. The most common ones available are KY (liquid is more highly recommended than the jelly) and Astroglide (also recommended). Many women prefer lubricants that are available at sex shops, for various reasons. Visit any online sex store and you will see many possibilities to choose from, and often the stores have good descriptions to help you choose. One popular lubricant is called Liquid Silk, and is only available from sex shops.

Are there any good vaginismus resources on the web?
In Print?Yes. But they are few and far between. If you join the Vaginismus Internet list (see below), you will have access to links their members have found useful at: www.egroups.com/links/vaginismus
One resource that many women have found incredibly useful is support groups. There are three main support groups for vaginismus. One group is just for women with vaginismus, and is on egroups.com under the name Vaginismus. Another is just for partners of women with vaginismus, and is called VaginismusPartners. A third is for women with vaginismus, their partners, and medical professionals. It is called 1Vaginismus.

Vaginismus

Vaginismus (the German equivalent of the word Vaginism) is a condition which affects a woman's ability to engage in any form of vaginal penetration, including sexual penetration, insertion of tampons, and the penetration involved in gynecological examinations. This is the result of a conditioned reflex of the pubococcygeus muscle, which is sometimes referred to as the 'PC muscle'. The reflex causes the muscles in the vagina to tense suddenly, which makes any kind of vaginal penetration -- including sexual penetration -- either painful or impossible.
A vaginismic woman does not consciously control the spasm. The vaginismic reflex can be compared to the response of the eye shutting when an object comes towards it. The severity of vaginismus varies from woman to woman. Experience of vaginismus
The conditioned reflex can create a vicious circle for vaginismic women. One example: if a teenage female learns that the first time she engages in penetrative sex that it will be painful, she may develop vaginismus because she expects pain. If she then attempts to engage in penetrative sex, the muscle spasm will make penetrative sex painful. This and each further attempt at sexual penetration confirms her fear of pain and may worsen the condition. Naturally, penetration may be extremely painful without vaginismus or psychological prerequisite as well.
Primary vaginismus
Primary vaginismus occurs when a woman has never been able to have penetrative sex or achieve any kind of vaginal penetration. It is commonly discovered in teenagers and women in their early twenties, as this is when many young women in the Western world will initially attempt to use tampons, have penetrative sex, or undergo a pap smear. Women who have vaginismus may not be aware of their condition until they attempt vaginal penetration. It may be confusing for a woman to discover she has vaginismus. She may believe that vaginal penetration should be naturally easy, or she may be unaware as to the reason for her condition.
Some of the things that may cause primary vaginismus are:
sexual abuse
having been taught that sex is immoral or vulgar
the fear of pain associated with penetration, particularly that of breaking the hymen upon the first attempt at sexual penetration
Secondary vaginismus
Secondary vaginismus occurs when a woman who has previously been able to achieve penetration develops vaginismus. This may be due to physical causes such as a yeast infection or trauma during childbirth, or it may be due to psychological causes. The treatment for secondary vaginismus is the same as for primary vaginismus, although, in these cases, previous experience with successful penetration can assist in a more rapid resolution of the condition.
Treatment
There are a variety of factors that can contribute to vaginismus. These may be psychological or physiological, and the treatment required can depend on the reason that the woman has developed the condition. As each case is different, an individualized approach to treatment is useful.
The condition will not necessarily become more severe if left untreated, unless the woman is continuing to attempt penetration, despite feeling pain. Some women may choose to refrain from seeking treatment for their condition.
According to the Cochrane Collaboration review of the scientific literature, "In spite of encouraging results reported from uncontrolled case series there is very limited evidence from controlled trials concerning the effectiveness of treatments for vaginismus. Further trials are needed to compare therapies with waiting list control and with other therapies." [1]
Although few controlled trials have been carried out, many serious scientific studies have tested and proved the efficacy of the treatment of vaginismus. In all cases where the systematic desensitization method was used, success rates were close to 90-95% and even 100%. For an example of one of these studies, see Nasab, M., & Farnoosh, Z., or for a basic review, see Reissing's literature review. (links below)

Psychological treatment
According to Ward and Ogden's qualitative study on the experience of vaginismus for women (1994), the three highest ranked causes for vaginismus are usually fear of painful sex, strict religious upbringing where sex was viewed as wrong or not discussed, and early childhood traumatic experiences (not necessarily sexual in nature).
It is important to address the psychological aspects of the problem as well as the actual muscle spasm. A woman may choose to address the issue on her own terms, or she may avail the help of a therapist.
Many people -- even some professionals -- are not aware of the emotional difficulties associated with vaginismus, which can include low self-esteem, fears, and depression. Women with this condition may wish to seek an understanding professional who has previous experience with women who experience vaginismus. A therapist who has a positive attitude towards sex and the human body may be beneficial.
Physical treatment
Physical treatment of the internal spasms may include sensate focus exercises, exploring the vagina through touch, and desensitization with vaginal dilators. Dilating involves inserting objects, usually phallic in shape, into the vagina. In treating the spasms through dilation, the objects used gradually increase in size as the woman progresses. Medical dilators may be obtained online, though they may be expensive.
Sexuality
If a woman suspects she has vaginismus, sexual penetration is likely to remain painful or impossible until her vaginismus is addressed. Women with vaginismus may be able to engage in other sexual activities, as long as penetration is avoided. Sexual partners of vaginismic women may come to believe that vaginismic women do not want to engage in penetrative sex at all, though this may not be true. Many vaginismic women do wish to engage in penetrative sex, but are deterred by the pain and emotional distress that comes with each attempt.
Masturbation
Women with vaginismus may not realize that most women who do not have vaginismus usually do experience pain or discomfort if they attempt sexual penetration without prior sexual arousal. Most women acknowledge sexual arousal as integral to painless sexual penetration so self-exploration of the vaginal area through masturbation can be beneficial in addressing vaginismus.
One of the problems that can come with vaginismus is that a woman may be fearful to engage in sexual activity, due to the fear of pain with any kind of vaginal penetration. Solo masturbation, with or without penetration, can alleviate this fear, as well as the psychological pressure to 'perform' sexually or become aroused quickly, with a partner.
Despite popular belief, orgasm need not be the goal of masturbation. The reason may be to simply increase comfort with the genital area, to explore various sensations through genital and clitoral touch, and to become aware of those sensations which are relaxing and pleasurable. Sexual arousal causes changes in the shape and color of the vulva, as well as in the vaginal lubrication produced. As a woman becomes more aware of her individual sexual response, she can learn which sensations are best for bringing her to a state of arousal. She will then be better equipped to teach her partner(s) which sensations feel best for her.
Emotional experiences
A wide range of emotions may surface during masturbation and other forms of genital exploration. Some women have negative associations with their genitals, including fears that their genitals are dirty, smelly, oddly shaped, or ugly. These associations can lead to negative emotions arising during any kind of sexual expression, including masturbation, and these emotions can take time to process. Especially in the case of a vaginismic woman, feelings of shame, inadequacy or of being 'defective' can be deeply troubling. Relaxation, patience and self-acceptance are vital to a pleasurable experience.
The process of addressing vaginismus requires time, patience, and a focused personal intention to heal. In almost all cases it can be successfully treated.

Vulvar Anatomy: Naming your parts!


"My vagina is a shell, a round pink tender shell, opening and closing, closing and opening. My vagina is a flower, an eccentric tulip, the center acute and deep, the scent delicate, the petals gentle but sturdy. I did not always know this. I learned this in the vagina workshop." From The Vagina Workshop
As Eve Ensler, the author of the wonderful Vagina Monologues, and as Elizabeth Stewart, author of the useful V-Book, both strongly underline, vaginas have been kept out of sight literally and verbally and have been covered by mystery and secrecy for centuries, and what is not said out loud, becomes something shameful or invisible.It is evident that one thing that both women with and without vaginismus often have in common is that very few really know their vulva and many of us will have never even looked "down there" before having a problem requesting our attention...And there could be lots of reasons for that. For some of us and according to some of the girls giving their voice in the Vagina Monologues, there can be a really intense intimidation factor associated with the vagina. You might see your vagina as a scary, unknown world that you really don’t care to venture in to. Or you may feel nauseated by your vulva; for some reason or another, you feel sickened when you think of, look at or touch your vagina. Whatever your feelings are towards your vagina, you are not alone. Well, this has to stop. We want to reclaim our vagina, our vulva, and those writers urge us in different ways to stop feeling embarassed by it or ashamed of it. So we want to take on their battle call and armed with that strength, we'll dive in and explore with you those hidden regions..

Our Vagina Workshop
Well, before you begin the more practical steps to cure your vaginismus, it would be very powerful if you too could get to participate to such a workshop to get to know this special part of your body. It can make a big difference to befriend and own your vagina. Looking at your vulva with a hand mirror and gently touching the different parts of it, can be a very empowering and liberating experience. We know of a really good website to recommend to you which fully explains the anatomy of vaginas and vulvas better than we can and yet without getting too medical.The only problem with this website may be if you are not comfortable looking at very graphic, up-close images of real vulvas, vaginas and vagina openings, cause there will be plenty!So, only if you are comfortable with seeing graphic (but never pornographic) images of your private parts, then explore THE-CLITORIS.COM for more information. Otherwise, for a graphic-free and simplified version, keep reading here.

1. THE VULVA:
Your vulva is the WHOLE region down there. It includes the vagina, but also the inner and outer labia, the hymen, the clitoris, the muscles and the hair. It is a beautiful word but hardly used, since vagina is commonly used to refer to the whole part. When people say they are grossed out by vaginas, they often actually mean by vulvas more likely. This way Vaginas get a bad name they don’t deserve. And if your vulva grosses you out, why not get a mirror, trim a bit of the hair so you can see things more properly (no need to shave) and join us in its discovery...
2. OUTER LABIA:
They are the doors keeping your entrance protected. It’s all you can see when you first look for your vagina and can’t yet find it. The doors are closed and you will have to gently open them up, like delicate petals of a sleeping flower.
3. INNER LABIA:
Inside the main doors, once they are gently opened, you’ll find another set of smaller doors (inner labia), still protecting your entrance from view. When you are sexually aroused, they will gradually open and the entrance will be in full sight (if you're aroused that is. If not, you will not see much for the moment), or you can gently move them aside to get a peek, if you don’t want to wait for arousal.
4. THE CLITORIS and clitoral glans:
The clitoris is a Y-shaped organ that is mostly inside the body. The clitoral hood is the little hood of flesh at the top of the vulva, just below where the outer labia meet at the top. If you lift it up, gently (it can be very sensitive), you can find a slightly redder part which is the clitoral glans. The clitoris and clitoral glans only have one purpose: to provide you with pleasure. You can try to gently rub it, press it, massage it, move it, or it may be too sensitive and it may hurt you to do that. You will be able to find what works best for you, but one thing is sure: women (and men) have ignored this part of the body for a long time but it is no longer deniable by now that the clitoris has a large role to play in giving women pleasure during intercourse and before and afterwards too.
Female Genital Mutilation
In some African countries, the clitoral glans is removed as soon as a girl reaches puberty or even before then. On top of the pain and trauma, a girl loses the chance to feel most of her pleasure by herself and has to rely on a man for pleasure or forever be denied it. Besides, with the harsher types of these mutilations, she will most likely feel much more pain during childbirth and she can risk many infections. This cultural procedure is known as ‘Female Genital Mutilation’ and it is illegal in most countries. It is often reported that it is Muslim African cultures that perform female genital mutilation but that is not correct. By placing Muslim there, it seems to insinuate that the predominant culture pursuing this act is 'Muslim' but there is absolutly nothing in Muslim doctrine and teaching that preaches any such practice. These practices however have been found in tribal Africa for thousands of years. It is NOT 'Muslim' Africans who practice it. Many other non-muslim tribal systems continue to practice it. It just so happens that we may have heard of some tribes (which happen to have become Muslim along the course of history) that continue to practice such horror with women. In fact Islam abolished and completely dissaproves of female genital mutilation, and sexual intercourse is perceived as an act of pleasure, union and spirituality between partners.For more information on Female Genital Mutilation in the world, click on these Amnesty's and World Health Organization factsheets.
5. THE VESTIBULE:
This is that soft smooth area beneath your inner labia. It’s an important part to know because if it hurts you to touch it, your problem may not be vaginismus but vulvar vestibulitis instead. Basically, it shouldn’t hurt you to touch it. If it does, you should see a specialist about it, but make sure they are knowledgable about V.V. It is a relatively new scientific discovery. A doctor should be able to diagnose you by poking around that area with a Q-tip and noticing your pain. And don't worry: there are creams and treatments for it in case. But if you suspect this may be the case, you may want to read a clear description of V.V. made by a woman in our Forum , where she shared her experience very generously.
6. THE URETHRAL OPENING:
It’s quite shocking to hear that even in this day and age, some girls still believe that urine (pee) exits from the vagina. I still remember telling some African girls living in Australia about this one day, in Uni, and how shocked and giggly they all got. They had no idea and I bet they are not the only ones!So urine does not exit from the vagina. Vaginas are very clean and urine is released out of a very tiny opening (so small in fact that it can hardly be seen) which is further up, hidden inside the inner lips. You may want to try and see for yourself next time you go to the toilet.The fact that this opening is so close to the vaginal opening unfortunately makes women more prone than men to get Urinary Tract Infections.If you feel an itching or burning when peeing, you may want to check for these infections with your Doctor, they are quite common but highly treatable. And please don't feel ashamed! Having a UTI will not make a doctor think that you had some sort of sexual contact! Or if you have a jealous partner, he should not think that you were betraying him! Some infections that hurt our vaginas have NOTHING to do with sexual contact so even virgins can get them...
7. THE VAGINA and Vaginismus:
The word vagina is often used to describe the whole area made up of the parts we just described, but that is not the correct use and we don't encourage it.In most cases people will understand that you may be referring to some other parts but it'd be better to use vulva for the whole area.The Vagina is a hidden inner tunnel inside the vulva that links the outer world with the inside uterus and it's that part of the body which can open to let a penis in, close to keep a penis out and open to let a baby out. Your vagina is also the place where menstrual blood comes out of. But nope, pee does not come out of it! That's the urethral opening.So one of the NATURAL functions of a HEALTHY vagina is to close to keep something unwanted from entering her.In this light, vaginismus is the natural, FUNCTIONAL ability of vaginas to close to keep something out which is not welcome or that could potentially hurt, or hurt again. So it's far from dysfunctional! Every woman fighting against an attempted rape will experience vaginismus to a certain extent, her muscles will fully clamp in anticipation of pain and to keep a penis out so vaginismus is an important defensive function that each healthy vagina has. (Though unfortunately vag. won't prevent from rape..) The inside of a vagina is very smooth to the touch, just like the inside of your mouth, but it also has some little bumpy ridges on the walls: they are to allow the vagina to expand in width, like wrinkles :) so if you should feel them with your finger inside, you are perfectly normal.The vagina is a tunnel but unlike a real tunnel, the walls here are actually gently touching each other when it’s not aroused. Imagine a long balloon when it's empty. The upper and lower parts will touch but as soon as you fill it with water or air, they won't touch anymore. That's why when you look for "the opening", you may not find any "hole" there. Because in it's relaxed state, it's closed...A vagina can be dry or wet, depending on the state of arousal. Vaginas are made of mucus membrane, so they are always a bit moist, like the insides of mouths and noses and intact penises. But there’s a difference between normal moisture and being wet when aroused. Usually a vagina will not open unless it’s aroused/wet and the juice it produces will help anything slide in effortlessly. You should not try and have sex or insert dilators or tampons unless your vagina walls are wet or the object/penis is lubricated, cause you may tear or cut the skin inside, which is quite delicate.(We are aware that in some countries, men unfortunately like to have 'dry sex'. That is VERY unhealthy for the woman, so we hope they can realize that their pleasure isn't worth a woman's suffering...) Vaginas are elastic, that means they can usually accommodate reulgar-sized penises and stretch to the point that a baby’s head can get out of it (although that hurts!), so even if you should look at the opening and see a very tiny one, remember that in an aroused state and with lubrication and proper foreplay and gradual insertions, it is very likely that size won’t matter.On average, a vagina is about 7 cm in length and it stretches to about 10 or 11 cm when it’s aroused, but they do vary in length, just like penises! and that doesn't affect their ability to feel or give pleasure. Read more myths on vaginas here.
8. THE CERVIX:
If you explore your vagina with your hand, at the end of the vaginal tunnel, your fingers or your partner's penis could bump into the cervix, which is like a little passage-door to the uterus. This door is usually closed and only opens during labour, also, when a woman gets aroused, the cervix retracts into the sides of the wall of the vagina so that it gets out of the way of the penis. Still, sometimes a penis may bump against it when having intercourse and when that happens, it could hurt or bleed, that's quite common.But if your cervix gets bumped a lot, it could be because your partner may have a long penis, or because he uses long strokes, which touch the end of the vagina tunnel, and it may hurt there. Let your partner know that it hurts you when your cervix is touched, so you can find positions or a thrusting speed that won't cause you that. Also, if it's bleeding, you may want to have a gynaecological exam to make sure everything is ok. The cervix is that part of the body that your gynecologist will be able to see when using a speculum. It may be impossible for you to see it on your own.The cervix can feel like a grape, a round bump. The opening in the cervix is tiny and there is no way a tampon, a penis, or anything else could get in there. Cervixes do not open unless they have a good reason: childbirth!
9. THE OPENING (a.k.a. THE INFAMOUS HOLE):
Your vaginal opening can be the most elusive part to find. That's because your vagina will be closed most of the time. It only opens for intercourse, when aroused, or to allow something like a speculum in (or a baby out).It may sound corny but it truly is just like a flower, opening as soon as the first rays of sun touch it. So if you are not aroused, and you are looking for the entrance to the tunnel, you may not find it. As we described it above, the vagina tunnel can be comparable to a long balloon when it's empty. The upper and lower parts will touch but as soon as you fill it with water or air, they won't touch anymore. That's why when you look for "the opening", you may not find any "hole" there. Because in it's relaxed state, it's closed... You may even worry that you don’t have a hole, but that’s a one in a million chance really and it will depend on your hymen... (Read our section on hymens and hymenectomy for more information on that)If you should see pictures of women right after they had sex or if you look at yourself when in a state of full arousal, you may be able to clearly see the vagina entrance fully opened for a while. Seeing the wide-open entrance of a vagina about to give birth can be both shocking and awe-inspiring.The vaginal opening will go back to closing itself and will go back to its original state very quickly, because it’s very elastic, but for a while it will be very clear that the opening certainly is there and able to stretch! If you feel like seeing realistic drawings of vaginal openings , or graphic pictures (but not pornographic) here you can find some from "the-clitoris.com" website that we recommended at the beginning. Looking at pictures of vulvas can help you get used to what they look like. After you have seen a lot of different vulvas, you may realize that your own isn’t weird at all!
10. THE HYMEN or The veil
This can be a tricky one. Some women believe it’s inside the vagina but it’s actually right on the outside, it's what covers the vaginal opening. Basically, the hymen is a membrane with a little or few tiny holes which let fluids out, like blood for instance, when you have your period. It also can be quite flexible so if you put something really small like a finger or q-tip or small tampon through it, it should get inside no problem without pain or tearing. It is believed that hymens will have to ‘break’ during first-time sex, but in most cases if that happens it’s only because there hasn’t been enough gradual preparation for intercourse so the hymen tears.Things should not go that way. There should be no pain associated with first-time sex and one way to avoid this is simply that of stretching the hymen yourself (or with the help of partner) little by little, until it’s all gone.See the page on the Hymen for more information on how to stretch your hymen painlessly or check the section on Hymenectomies in the Treatments section, on the possible problematic hymen you may have and how to deal with it.
So, now that you can name the parts, you'll hopefully be tempted to take a mirror and start exploring them for yourself. There is no rush but it can be a life-changing experience to do that.You can write how you feel, your own vulva-monologue! and it can be something beautiful to share with a partner later.Hopefully they can share both your amazement and awe.Then you may proceed to checking out the bdilating guide and start the practical steps to cure vaginismus if you wish. By now you'll have your vagina on your side. You got to know the enemy and it's much more friendly than you probably thought before. If you reached that attitude, that would already be a great success, more than reaching intercourse but still feeling a stranger to one's vagina or even disattached from it. If you can get to feel love for your vagina and vulva, that'd be terrific.If not, we'd suggest that you take some more time getting to know her and explore her, before you move on or before letting someone else do the exploring for you.But whether you like what you saw or not, at least now you'll know her and that's already a great step forward.

P.S. A curious parallel: the pink inside of Cathedrals
Call it DaVinci Code's mania, paganism or what you will, but it is hard to deny that the inside lay-out of Cathedrals strangely resembles the inside of a woman's vulva:The main door at the entrance, followed by two smaller doors inside, opening laterally, then the long straight vaginal aisle leading to the altar where the miracle of life happens, right under a womb-shaped dome, and then the left and right little chapels, shaped as ovaries, on the sides of the altar.It may all be feminist-fiction but whatever your religion it is undeniable that our vulva and vagina would deserve to be honoured that way. They ARE sacred spaces after all, awe inspiring and worthy of total respect. And we all forget too easily about this...
"We forget about the vagina.. All of us.. What else would xplain our lack of awe, our lack of reverence ?" (From the Vagina Monologue "I was there")

vaginismus treatment

A good sexual rule of thumb is, Don't have intercourse if it's painful. If you ever experience pain during intercourse, stop. Then see a doctor to help you determine the cause of the pain and help you overcome the problem. When the physical cause of the pain is eliminated, go back to having intercourse painlessly and enjoyably. To do otherwise invites disaster.
It's true that when important emotional needs, such as sexual fulfillment, are unmet, there is a risk for an affair. But having sex at all costs is not the solution. In fact, if you follow my Policy of Joint Agreement (never do anything without an enthusiastic agreement between you and your spouse) you would never have sex in a way that's painful to you. Instead, you would pursue painless sexual options until you have resolved the problem.
Most women throughout most of their lives experience no pain whatsoever when they have intercourse. The vagina is designed for intercourse, and works very well for that purpose under most conditions. But, once in a while, most women do experience pain during intercourse. When they do, they should identify and treat the problem before having intercourse again.
There are primary and secondary causes of vaginal pain during intercourse. The primary causes are those that are responsible for the initial pain or discomfort. Secondary causes are those that are created by the pain itself if intercourse continues. These can trigger vaginal pain long after the primary causes have been overcome.
Primary Causes of Vaginal Pain
One of the most common primary causes of vaginal pain during intercourse is a dry vagina. Usually, when a woman is sexually aroused, fluids are secreted in the vagina that keep the lining well lubricated. But if a woman is not sexually aroused, or if fluids are not secreted for some other reason, intercourse can cause very painful damage to the vaginal lining. And in some cases, the lining of the vagina can actually tear, resulting in post-intercourse bleeding.
There are two ways to avoid a dry vagina during intercourse. The first is to avoid intercourse until you are sexually aroused. The second way is to use an artificial water-based vaginal lubricant, such as K-Y jelly, Vagisil Intimate Moisturizer, or Replens Vaginal Mosturizer, as a substitute or backup for natural lubricant.
Since vaginal secretion is usually an indication of a woman's sexual interest, I usually recommend that intercourse wait until she experiences sexual arousal and natural lubrication. I want couples to avoid getting into the habit of sex that's passionless for her. But if natural secretion is an unreliable indicator of your sexual arousal, I would certainly recommend an artificial lubricant.
If you're not sure if a dry vagina is the cause of your pain, use an artificial lubricant once. If there is no pain under those conditions, then you have proof that it's the cause of your distress.
Another common cause of vaginal discomfort during intercourse is bacterial infection. This occurs frequently in women, and an antibiotic will generally cure the problem within a week or so. A related problem is bladder infections. While the problem may be in the bladder or urethra, not in the vagina, it often causes discomfort during intercourse.
A visit to your doctor will identify and treat a bacterial infection so that you will have minimal interruption in your sexual fulfillment. But be sure to make the appointment as soon as intercourse is uncomfortable. Otherwise it can develop into a secondary cause of vaginal pain that I will explain later.
There are other diseases that can cause pain or discomfort during intercourse. Vaginal endometriosis is one of them. When your doctor examines you for possible bacterial infection, be sure to ask him or her about endometriosis, because it is often overlooked during an examination. Your doctor examination will also be able to check for any vaginal tumors or venereal diseases that may be causing your discomfort. These problems may take longer to treat than bacterial infections, but whatever the problem turns out to be, don't have intercourse until it has been overcome.
If you have experienced vaginal bleeding after intercourse, your doctor should also be able to identify its source, and treat it for you. Sometimes a scratch or tear in the lining caused by something other than intercourse can be the cause of your problem.
It is very important for you to be comfortable with regular pelvic examinations. Otherwise you may let a medical problem become so far advanced that it causes you permanent injury. If you are embarrassed to see a male doctor, find a female doctor. But whatever you do, don't let your inhibitions prevent you from experiencing painless intercourse.
If your doctor can identify the source of your vaginal discomfort, don't have intercourse until the problem is treated and overcome to his or her satisfaction. Some problems can be treated in a week or less, while others, like endometriosis may take months to overcome.
If you are unable to have intercourse during treatment for a vaginal disease, that doesn't mean you'll be forcing your husband to rush off to have sex with someone else. I suggest that your husband be informed by your doctor of what it is you are going through, and how you will be treated. A major problem you may face is your husband's failure to see your sexual reluctance for what it is: vaginal pain brought on by a physical cause. If he doesn't believe you when you explain that it's the pain that makes you reluctant, his ignorance puts your sexual relationship, and probably your marriage, at risk. But once he understands the nature of the problem, and knows that it isn't an affair or some other emotional cause, he will be happier with alternatives to intercourse while you wait for your treatment to take effect.
In some cases, a husband's thoughtlessness is remembered long after the painful symptoms are gone. If your husband tries to force you to have painful intercourse with him and threatens you if you do not cooperate, your memories of his insensitivity will be a far greater barrier to your future sexual relationship than your disease ever could have been. Don't let him create those barriers to your future together. Insist that there be no sex unless you enjoy the experience with him. It's not only in your best interest, but in his best interest too. If you go ahead and try to make love when it's painful to you, you may have a very difficult time making love to him in the future.
A Secondary Cause of Vaginal Pain
What should you do if you eliminate the primary causes, and you still experience vaginal pain? What if your doctor finds no physical cause for your discomfort during intercourse? That can be very discouraging to most women, who begin to think that it's all in their heads. If the pain is not physically caused, then it must be psychological, right?
Not necessarily. In fact, most cases of persistent vaginal discomfort are not due to primary causes at all, but rather to a reflex called vaginismus. It's not psychological or emotional, it's very physical. Vaginismus is a painful reflex that is created in association with a primary cause of vaginal pain. In other words, if you experience vaginal pain from any one of the primary causes I've mentioned, vaginismus can develop secondarily. Long after the primary cause is ended, the vaginismus can persist.
This reflex responds to stimulation of the vaginal opening. If you suffer from vaginismus, you will notice it most when you first try to insert something into your vagina. The opening involuntarily contracts and pain is immediately felt. In extreme cases, the contraction is so tight that nothing can penetrate it.
From this description, you can see how it would interfere with intercourse. Regardless of how sexually aroused you might be, or how lubricated your vagina might be, as soon as you try to insert your husband's penis, you would experience excruciating pain. It may be difficult to insert his penis, because the vaginal opening becomes constricted. In some cases, it is impossible to insert a penis.
Naive couples often don't know what to make of vaginismus. Some of my clients believed it was God's punishment for their having sex before marriage. Others have blamed it on the sins of their parents. But whatever its cause, it certainly feels like punishment for something. Only after I am able to explain the cause of the reflex and help them eliminate it, do they realize that sin has nothing to do with it.
There is a tried and proven way to overcome the vaginismus reflex. If you follow this procedure, I guarantee your success. I recommend that you follow the exercises I recommend in the privacy of your bathroom, or when you are alone in the house. Your husband should not be included until the later sessions.
First determine how strong the reflex is and what triggers it. The way to determine its strength is to insert your finger into the vaginal opening to see what happens. If there is no reaction to your finger, insert something increasingly wider, like candles, until you can trigger the reflex. It will be an involuntary contraction of the opening as you try to insert the object, and it will be painful.
Notice how large the object must be before the reflex is triggered, and how tight the opening gets. The smaller the triggering object, and the tighter the opening, the more difficult it will be to extinguish the reflex. If you can't get your finger into the opening without extreme pain, you have a very well developed case of vaginismus. But regardless of its intensity, it can be eliminated.
The way to eliminate this reflex is to set aside a few minutes each day, preferably several times a day, to expose the opening of your vagina to penetration without triggering the reflex. If you can associate vaginal penetration with no pain or discomfort, the reflex will be extinguished. But remember, even an occasional triggering of the reflex can strengthen it.
Begin each session by covering your finger with water-based lubrication (such as K-Y jelly, Vagisil Intimate Moisturizer, or Replens Vaginal Mosturizer). Very slowly, lubricate the opening of the vagina with your finger, then slowly insert your finger about an inch. Even in the worst cases of vaginismus, a finger can be inserted so slowly into a lubricated vaginal opening that the reflex is not triggered. In a slow circular motion, gently rub the vaginal opening with your finger in ever-increasing circles. Remember to go slowly enough not to trigger the reflex or experience any discomfort. After you have rubbed the opening for about a minute without any pain or discomfort, slowly insert your finger into the vagina, and in a circular motion gently rub the inside of the vagina as far as your finger will go. Then remove your finger, and do the same thing all over again. Do it about five times before you end the session.
You will notice that after the first insertion of your finger, the opening is much less sensitive, and you will be able to penetrate much more quickly without triggering a reflex. Move your finger slowly enough so that you avoid any discomfort. But after a while, you will find that you can move it very freely without pain.
You may end the first session thinking that you have overcome the reflex, only to discover at the beginning of the next session that it is back. So start the next session very slowly and carefully, doing again what you did during the first session. When you think you are ready, use a larger object than your finger, such as a candle, and increase the diameter of the object until it is about the size of a penis. Be sure to re-lubricate whatever you choose to insert, and go slowly to avoid the reflex.
The number of sessions to completely eliminate the reflex will depend on the severity of the vaginismus. But when it is eliminated, you should be able to insert an object the size of a penis, with lubrication, fairly rapidly without any pain or discomfort.
There are some women who are not comfortable touching themselves, and would prefer having their husbands carry out these exercises. While it can work, the problem with anyone else doing it is that no one but you knows precisely how much pressure to use, and your husband would inadvertently trigger the reflex far more often than you would. That means that it would take much longer for you to overcome vaginismus with his help.
His turn should come after you are convinced that the reflex is extinguished. Up to this point, obviously, you should have avoided intercourse, because it would have brought the reflex back. But when you think the reflex is gone, it's time to start having intercourse again. Unfortunately, you will find that after you have learned to insert a penis-sized object into your vagina without incident, the reflex may suddenly reappear the first time your husband tries to insert his penis.
To prepare for that common outcome, the first time you have intercourse you should insert his penis yourself. Use plenty of lubricating fluid, and lay on top of him when you do it so you can control the penetration. He should lay motionless so that the penetration and thrusting is done only by you so you can stop whenever you experience the least amount of discomfort. Eventually, you will be able to insert his penis without any pain, thrust as fast and deep as you want, and experience no discomfort whatsoever. The vaginismus reflex will have been eliminated.
If it ever comes back, it will be in a much milder form, and you will be able to eliminate it in a day or so by going back to inserting his penis yourself and controlling the thrusting motion during intercourse.
To repeat what I have already said numerous times, whenever you experience any pain during intercourse, stop immediately. Then solve the problem before resuming intercourse.

What is vaginismus?

Vaginismus is a spasm in the musculature of the outer third ofthe vagina which makes insertion difficult or impossible. For somewomen, this muscle spasm is painful; for others, it is not. Most womenexperience pain if they try to insert something in spite of this spasm. Is vaginismus always caused by abuse? No. Some research suggests a correlation between vaginismusand abuse, and other studies show no relationship. Many women withvaginismus have been abused, and many have not. Just because you'venever been abused doesn't mean you can't have vaginismus, any morethan being abused would guarantee vaginismus. What causes vaginismus? It is widely believed that in most cases of vaginismus, thespasm is triggered either by pain or the anticipation of pain(emotional or physical pain). Much like the way an eyelid closes whensomething comes to close to the eye or a muscle flinches in responseto an imminent punch, vaginismus is like a vaginal flinch. It is insome sense protecting the area, even though the woman doesn't want itto. Some women have fears or guilt regarding intercourse, others havephysical pain problems, and still others have no obvious cause fortheir condition. One perplexing aspect of vaginismus is thatoften the spasm remains long after the woman has dealt with anyanxieties or physical problems. So learning to control and eliminatethis spasm is how one cures vaginismus. If I have pain with intercourse, then do I necessarily have vaginismus? Not necessarily. Painful intercourse can be caused by anynumber of factors, and vaginismus isn't even the most common. Often,painful sex due to other conditions may lead to vaginismus, so even ifyou do have vaginismus, you may have another underlying primary causeof pain. The most common cause of chronic painful sex (or painful*attempts* at sex, depending on the severity) is vulvar vestibulitissyndrome (VVS). VVS can occur at any age, and often with no obviouscause and usually no visible symptoms. It is simply an enhancedsensitivity in, on, or near the vaginal opening. It should not hurt totouch any part of your vulva. If it does, you should look into thepossibility that you may have a vulvar pain condition. They areextremely common, and only seldom diagnosed. Most women suffer insilence. Most doctors do not routinely test for VVS, but the testsimply involves poking certain areas (corresponding to your vestibularglands) with a Q-tip and seeing if you have pain. There are otherproblems which can cause painful intercourse as well, including lichensclerosis (a skin condition), interstitial cystitis (involves thebladder), essential vulvodynia (which causes nearly constant pain),and others. These conditions are not widely understood or even recognizedby many doctors, so most women with these disorders (especially youngwomen) are likely to be misdiagnosed initially with vaginismus. If yoususpect you have one of these disorders, treatment by a specialist isrecommended. One excellent general resource which describes vulvarpain conditions is located athttp://www.vulvarpain.icomm.ca/paavonen_1.html A few other resourcesto help you find out more about these conditions are theVulvarDisorders list on yahoogroups:groups.yahoo.com/group/VulvarDisorders/ and www.vulvodynia.com whichhas a very useful FAQ, and www.vulvarpainfoundation.org as well aswww.wellweb.com/INDEX/QVULVODYNIA.HTM How can I cure this? Many women, though not all, find it necessary to treat theunderlying causes of their vaginismus. For some this will involvetherapy if emotional issues are involved, and for others they willhave to treat vulvar pain conditions, while still others may not needto focus on what initially caused their problem (some may not evenknow their cause), and just focus on controlling the muscle. Learning to control the muscle can be done in many differentways. The most common way is to gently insert progressively largerobjects (called "dilators") into the vagina so that the muscle spasmis unlearned. Two excellent sources on the web for instructions on howto use dilators are: http://www.med.umich.edu/obgyn/vulva/s&p.htm(you have to scroll down a bit to find the right section), andhttp://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5049a_qa.html (scroll heretoo). Other techniques our members have found helpful includerelaxation exercises, stretches, biofeedback-assisted musclerehabilitation, and focused exercises such as in Pilates. What are dilators and where can I get them? "Dilators," in this context, don't actually dilate, so it'skind of unfortunate terminology. The word refers to any objectsinserted vaginally to slowly condition the vaginal muscles to nottense up during penetration attempts. These can be candles, fingers,tampons, vegetables, dildoes, vibrators, or so-called "medicaldilators." The medical ones aren't significantly different fromdildoes, except that often a prescription is required, they are notavailable in festive colors, and in some cases, your insurance maycover them. Women on our list have tried all of the different kinds listedhere. Depending on your financial situation, whether you are beingtreated by a doctor or self-treating, and your personal preference,any of these may help you. Some women prefer vibrators because theyfind the vibration tends to relax the muscles, while others prefernon-vibrating dilators. Medical dilators are typically provided by physicians ortherapists, and dildoes and vibrators may be purchased at sexshops. Some shops recommended on our list that have online orderingand discreet shipping are www.a-womans-touch.com and www.goodvibes.comas well as many others. More shops are listed in the links section ofour website. Should I use lubricant? If so, what kind? Yes! Especially if you are just practicing with dilators, youmay not be aroused enough to provide adequate lubricant. Manydrugstores carry personal lubricants. The most common ones availableare KY (liquid is more highly recommended than the jelly) andAstroglide (also recommended). Many women prefer lubricants that areavailable at sex shops, for various reasons. Visit any online sexstore and you will see many possibilities to choose from, and oftenthe stores have good descriptions to help you choose. One popularlubricant on our list is called Liquid Silk, and is only availablefrom sex shops. Are there any good resources on the web? In print? Yes. Links that our members have found useful are listed on:http://groups.yahoo.com/group/vaginismus/links/ Also, there are other vaginismus groups that may be ofinterest. One is just for partners of women with vaginismus, and is atgroups.yahoo.com/group/vaginismuspartners Another is for women withvaginismus, their partners, and medical professionals. It is atgroups.yahoo.com/group/1vaginismus We know of a few internet lists about vaginismus which are forspeakers of languages other than English.
Whether your vaginismus is due to emotional issues or not,many develop sexual issues as a result of having vaginismus. For many,support groups such as ours help a lot, and for some, professionaltherapy is useful. One option is to write our list and see if otherwomen in your area have found good therapists who are knowledgeable inthis area. A resource for Americans is the American Association of SexEducators, Counselors, and Therapists, which has a website atwww.aasect.org where you can search for a sex therapist in your area.

Vaginismus

Definition
Vaginismus occurs when the muscles around the outer third of the vagina contract involuntarily when vaginal penetration is attempted during sexual intercourse.
Description
Vaginismus is a sexual disorder that is characterized by the outer third of the vaginal muscles tightening, often painfully. A woman with vaginismus does not willfully or intentionally contract her vaginal muscles. However, when the vagina is going to be penetrated, the muscles tighten spontaneously due to psychological or other reasons.
Vaginismus can occur under different circumstances. It can begin the first time vaginal penetration is attempted. This is known as "lifelong vaginismus." Alternately, vaginismus can begin after a period of normal sexual functioning. This is known as "acquired-type vaginismus." For some women, vaginal tightening occurs in all situations where vaginal penetration is attempted (generalized type). For other women, it occurs in only one or a few situations, such as during a gynecological examination at the doctor's office, or with a specific sex partner (situational type). According to the professional's handbook, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-IV-TR), in order for a condition to be diagnosed as vaginismus, the response must be due to psychological factors or a combination of psychological and medical factors, but not to medical factors alone. Because of this DSM-IV-TR criterion, this entry focuses on the psychological causes and treatments of vaginismus.
Causes and symptoms
Causes
There are many possible causes of vaginismus. One example is an upbringing in which sex was considered wrong or sinful—as in the case of some strict religious backgrounds. This is common among women with this disorder. Concern that penetration is going to be painful, such as during a first sexual experience, is another possible cause. It is also thought that women who feel threatened or powerless in their relationship may subconsciously use this tightening of the vaginal muscles as a defense or silent objection to the relationship. A traumatic childhood experience, such as sexual molestation, is thought to be a possible cause of vaginismus. Acquired-type vaginismus is often the result of sexual assault or rape.
Symptoms
Vaginismus can occur when any kind of penetration of the vagina is attempted. This includes attempted penetration by a penis, speculum, tampon, or other objects. The outer third of the vaginal muscles contract severely. This either prevents penetration completely, or makes it difficult and painful. The woman may truly believe that she wants to have sexual intercourse or allow the penetration. She may find that her subconscious desires or decisions do not allow her to relax the vaginal muscles.
Diagnosis
Diagnosing sexual disorders, including vaginismus, can often be very difficult. This is mainly due to lack of comfort many people feel in discussing sexual relations, even with their physicians. Often, cultural norms and taboos deter women from seeking assistance when they are experiencing such problems. When a physician or gynecologist is consulted, involuntary spasm during pelvic examination can confirm the diagnosis of vaginismus, and the physician will rule out any physiological causes for the condition. When psychological causes are suspected, referral should be made to a psychologist or psychiatrist.
According to the DSM-IV-TR, the first criterion for the diagnosis of vaginismus is the spasm of the muscles in the outer third of the vagina that are involuntary and recurring or persistent. The symptoms must cause physical or emotional distress, or, in particular, problems with relationships. The symptoms cannot occur during the course of another mental disorder that can account for them— they must exist on their own. As mentioned, the muscle spasm cannot be the direct result of any sort of physical or medical condition for vaginismus to be diagnosed.
Demographics
Although many women experience sexual disorders, it is hard to gather accurate data regarding the frequency of specific problems. Many cases go unreported. Vaginismus is thought to occur most often in women who are highly educated and of high socioeconomic status.
Treatment
There are many different treatments of vaginismus, as there is a multitude of ways to treat most sexual disorders. Therapists can use behavioral, hypnotic, psychological, educational, or group therapy techniques. Multiple techniques are often used simultaneously for the same patient. Much treatment is aimed at reducing the anxiety associated with penetration.
Psychotherapy
There are three settings in which psychological treatment can occur. These are in individual, couple, or group settings. During individual therapy, the treatment focuses on identifying and resolving any underlying psychological problems that could be causing the disorder. Problems stemming from issues such as childhood trauma or rape are often resolved this way. Revealing insecurities or fears about sex resulting from such things as parents' attitudes about it, or a religious upbringing, can often be discussed successfully if the affected woman can trust her therapist.
Couples therapy has been referred to as "dual-sex therapy." The idea behind couples therapy is that any sexual problem should be treated as a problem for the couple as a whole, and not just addressed as a problem for one person. Because this view is taken, the therapist interacts with the patients both separately and as a couple. The therapist addresses both the couple's sexual history and any other problems that may be occurring in the relationship. Confronting these problems may help to resolve the cause of the vaginismus. Working with a therapist on relationship problems can be very effective— perhaps especially so if the vaginismus is caused by a subconscious use of vaginal muscle spasms as a nonverbal form of protest about one or more aspects of the relationship. The couple is educated about vaginismus disorder and given advice on the kind of activities that can be engaged in at home that may be helpful in overcoming the disorder.
Group therapy, which can be very effective, is another form of therapy for vaginismus. In this form of therapy, couples or individuals who have the same or similar sexual disorders are brought together. For people who are embarrassed or ashamed of their disorder, this setting can provide comfort and strength. It is often very beneficial to witness another person discussing sex and sexual problems in an open and honest forum. It can also help to inspire patients to become more open and honest themselves.
Another positive feature of group therapy is that it provides a certain amount of pressure. Pressure to open up can help to provide a needed "push." Also the group's expectations for each other can provide positive pressure and encouragement for the group members. For example, the therapist may recommend "homework" outside the therapy sessions, including masturbation or certain kinds of foreplay. The group members will expect each other to complete the homework, and that expectation may help individual couples overcome their aversions to completing the activities.
Hypnotherapy
Hypnotherapy is also effective for some patients. In general, hypnotherapy tends to focus on overcoming the vaginismus itself, as opposed to resolving any causes or conflicts behind it. The therapist will determine if hypnotherapy is appropriate for a particular patient. There are often a number of sessions, during which the patient and therapist work to define the goals of the hypnotherapy. When the actual hypnosis occurs, the suggestions made are intended to resolve underlying fears or concerns, and to alleviate symptoms. For example, the patient may be told that she can have coitus without it being a painful experience, and that she will be able to overcome the muscle spasm.
During hypnosis, the problems causing the vaginismus may be explored, or an attempt may even be made to reverse feelings or fears that could be causing the disorder. Exploring causal relationships, as well as suggesting to the woman she can overcome her vaginal muscle spasms, can be very effective for certain patients.
Other treatments
Behavioral therapy is also used to treat vaginismus. When behavioral therapy is chosen, it is assumed that the vaginismus is a learned behavior that can be unlearned. Behavioral therapy generally involves desensitization. Patients are exposed to situations that they find create a mild sense of psychological discomfort or anxiety. Once these situations are conquered, the patient is exposed to sexual situations that they find more threatening, until coitus is eventually achieved without difficulty.
Another type of treatment for vaginismus involves desensitization over a period of time using systematic vaginal dilation. In the beginning of the treatment, the woman inserts a small object into her vagina. Over time, she inserts larger and larger vaginal dilators. Eventually, a dilator the size of a penis can be inserted comfortably and sexual intercourse can be achieved. There is some debate about this procedure, as it treats the symptoms and not the underlying causes of the vaginismus disorder.
Prognosis
Vaginismus is generally considered to be the most treatable sexual disorder. Successful treatment has been reported to be 63% or higher. For different people, the possibility of success using different treatments varies, because different cases of vaginismus disorder have varying causes. Generally, a treatment plan combining two or more therapeutic techniques is recommended.
Prevention
There is no known way to successfully prevent vaginismus; however, maintaining open marital communication may help to prevent the disorder, or to encourage seeking help if it does arise